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Wednesday, 10 February 2010

Love and Romance in Megatropolis-land









I read this one the other day and can totally relate with some of the points raised. Big city life, especially here in the west is not a Sex in the City or Jerry Seinfeld episode, by far. (Unemployed, living at home George Costanza constantly meeting beautiful women for dates, and then even breaking off with them. give me a break.) Very selfish, materialistic, full of childish drama, and people very mistrusting of one another. The city I live in is totally a city of extremes. Not nearly as bad as the city I moved from, but still, way over-rated nonetheless. Big oil office worker yuppie types cramming Starbucks coffee shops and mini-malls contrasting in many cases with the homeless, drug addicts or alcoholic standing right beside them.) Go to your local mall or library to meet a like a suitable like-minded person? pffff. Not these days. You're probably much better off applying to one of those cheesy Facebook singles adds, or other ones you see all over the internet. Woe to him who actually has the hubris to start a conversation with royalty. What does that tell you? The downtown library seems more like a drop in center/immigration office these days. Now, I'm not some Calvin Klein model, or as handsome as Ron Jeremy or the simply dashing Hugh Hefner, but It should be easier to meet a female for some fun. (Unless of course, you pull out your credit card, then you can get pretty well anything your little heart desires, even Maple Strawberry Ice Cream.)

My short time this past summer in Croatia was proof of this Japanese example. Now, it wasn't like some big Valentine's Day holiday, but when you are in a country where practically everyone has the same background, speaks the same language etc, things are a lot less complicated. In a super-duper multi-cultural society as Canada, the cards are not in your favor right off the bat. (This might help explain the staggering amount of people on medication for depression and other mental health issues.) This Japan article, (Yes, omg! From Pravda. It's not your grandfathers Pravda anymore. I'm an eclectic reader.) shows that in a more homogeneous society, the odds are in your favor. There's far less stumbling blocks/stress to finding someone and being more open. This past summer was proof of this. I could feel it as soon as I got off the plane and within an hour or two of being in the capital of Zagreb. So many complications were all of a sudden gone and I could actually feel myself breathe easier. No doctor prescribed synthetic concoction can give you that feeling. Anyway, thanks to my Russian friend for this one.





"Your mom does your laundry too?...That's Super!!!"









Big City Life: Yelling About Love to Nowhere




08.02.2010

Source: Pravda.Ru



Psychologists believe that residents of large cities lose their human nature and turn into selfish, indifferent urban monsters. In reality, residents of Tokyo demonstrate that metropolises are full of romantics. Their tradition, similar to Valentine’s Day, is a good example for the rest of us because it serves as collective psychotherapy. Once a year, on January 31st, thousands of Japanese go out to the streets to tell each other about their feelings. Every time this impromptu holiday is filmed by local TV stations because there are plenty of interesting things are being told. Surprisingly, normally shy and reserved Japanese know how to open themselves and make public love confessions. The "Love Message Yelling Event" is a fairly new tradition started by Kiyotaka Yamana, a Tokyo resident. Yamana was suffering from a depression caused by his divorce and even contemplated suicide. He was still in love with his wife who left him for another man. One day, Yamana decided to go out in the streets and share his pain with strangers. People in the streets listened to his yells carefully, and their attention cured Yamana’s wounds and rid him of suicidal thoughts.

 He is now considered the ideologist of the "Love Message Yelling Event." He thinks that the holiday he invented helps the Japanese find balance they lost because of personal problems, and regain confidence. "The dominant image of Japanese men is of overworked businessmen, but I wanted to tell people around world that Japanese men are actually very romantic," Yamana said. The event participants gather at the Hibiya Park in central Tokyo to yell about everything that pains them. Most of them suffer from unshared love, and their screams can melt the toughest heart. You can see a man in a suit with a face red from effort yelling “I love you, love you!” and his neighbor screaming “Please don’t reject me, we must be together!”

 Some declarations reflected the gloomy economic situation: one husband, his voice choked up with tears, thanked his wife for staying with him although he lost his job more than a year ago. Consistent growth in the number of people who fail to find a life partner is an alarming symptom for Japanese sociologists. The country has too many childless single people who dedicate their lives to work. The officials consider the "Love Message Yelling Event" a wonderful stimulus for those single Japanese who prefer to be alone because of their fear of personal failure. Yelling about one’s feelings is a great emotional outburst. “My heart throbbed with excitement. It really touched me,” said a 38-year-old Ayako Kikuchi, holding the hand of husband Kenichi who had just finished yelling “Ayako, I love you” on the stage. “I feel refreshed after I yell, so, from now on, I'll tell my girl directly that I love her... but not this loud,” said a 27-year-old businessman Kenzaburo Cho after telling his fiancée: “Stay with me for all your life. I love you.” There are those who do not need a partner to make love confessions. One kimono-clad woman, who said she was unmarried, confessed to the audience that she loved herself the most. Her antipode is a single man who said he wished to have a partner amused the crowd by crying out: “Anybody. Please... right now.” He might even get lucky – there is nothing more romantic than meeting a man capable of sharing his feelings with the entire world.

Natalia Sinitsa Pravda.Ru






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